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Bored With Dating? Start Seeking Quality Over Quantity


There is nothing worse than when awesome people who are committed to having true Love end up getting burnt out by underwhelming dates.


When you're doing all the right things--putting yourself out there, meeting new people, being outgoing, taking risks--and still nothing seems to really go anywhere, it can leave you feeling hopeless, like there are no good people out there.


If your experience is anything like ours was, then you range from going on dates where the evening won't end fast enough to really liking someone only to realize that they are far from relationship material. Sometimes this process is relatively painless while at other times it can be utterly heartbreaking.


We know what it feels like to chase a hopeless situation, to be heartbroken by it, only to then try again with someone that you're not the least bit attracted to. After you've done this a few times, you start to think, "Is this ever going to work out for me?" "Am I just meant to be alone?" "Will I ever fall in Love? Have a family?"


Still, you know in your heart that the right person has to be out there. You know what you really bring to a relationship, and you know that there is a man or woman out there somewhere that would be grateful to share their life with someone like you. If only you could find them, you would have the most extraordinary Love together.


That person is out there. We've demonstrated that with our clients time and time again. Unfortunately, so many people remain in cycles that actually prevent them from meeting the right people.


Dating is not about quantity. Of course there needs to be some quantity, but no amount of meeting and dating the wrong people will ever equal the right one.


Learning how to meet the right people is an essential part of our coaching. Once you master this ability you will spend a lot less time and energy on dating and the dates you do go on will be fun and enjoyable. You'll have some great times and make some new friends, and if you're consistent with it, you will surely meet the right one.


In this post, we're giving you our strategies for meeting quality people. By following these instructions, you will transform your dating experience into an exciting game of connecting with awesome people and ultimately find yourself in Love and in the kind of relationship you have always dreamed about.


If dating is a challenge for you, then read on. This is about to change everything.



How and where to meet the right person


Something that you have to remember is that the kind of person you want to meet is not out looking for a relationship. Seeking a relationship doesn't work. This doesn't mean they aren't actively participating in their Love lives when the opportunities arise--they certainly are. This simply means they aren't waiting around for a relationship to start living the life they want--they are doing it right now.


This is precisely why you are unlikely to meet someone you can have a thriving relationship with in a bar or a nightclub. We're not saying it can't happen, but the odds are against you. The same goes for dating apps. People who are hanging out in places like this and looking to meet someone usually fall into two categories:


1. People who want a relationship but have nothing better going on than to go out drinking or play around on an app.


or


2. They are just looking for an easy hookup, no commitment involved.


Either way, it doesn't really set you up for success.


Again we're not saying there are no good people in these environments--of course there are--but they are so outnumbered that by sheer probability you'll likely not find them.


Fatima and I both tried dating apps and we both had the same experience. While we may have met some interesting people, overall we were underwhelmed by 100% of the people we connected with in terms of the possibility of creating a relationship. They just were not on the same page as us, and we honestly didn't have the time to go on the number of dates it would take to finally meet a quality person. So we quit, as most quality people do.


Quality people are looking for 3 things:


Education, Motivation, and Inspiration.


They are either engaged in growing their mind (education), achieving their goals (motivation), or pursuing their passions (inspiration). In pursuing these endeavors they are naturally surrounded by other people who are doing the same and therefore, dating quality people comes naturally to them. They don't have to go very far out of their way to do so.