Powerful women face a unique challenge in dating. We live in a male-dominated society where masculine qualities such as strength, rationality, self-reliance, persistence, and discipline are often highly valued, equated with power, and generally seen as qualities that get ahead and generate success.
Feminine qualities such as gentleness, compassion, nurturing, kindness, and forgiveness are obviously equally powerful and important but unfortunately, in many instances, our society often views these qualities as second-rate and sometimes even as weaknesses or obstacles to achieving what we want.
As a powerful woman in a masculine-driven society, you've probably found yourself adapting to and taking on some, if not all, of these masculine attributes in certain settings and you may have adapted very well and become incredibly powerful in many respects. But it stands to note that nearly all of the women we speak to regarding their experience with this report that in doing so, they feel like they've lost something and they don't feel that they're fully able to be themselves.
Oftentimes, as it translates into dating, women we've worked with say they end up feeling unsafe and have to constantly protect themselves. And when they recognize that they're more powerful than many of the men they meet, dating can become incredibly frustrating.
As a powerful woman, you want to be respected and appreciated by a man. You want to be able to let loose and be yourself. You want to be able to relax and trust but so many years of guarding yourself and all the work you've done to get where you are make you believe that you can't let your guard down.
So as a powerful woman you may often end up feeling lonely, or like you can't relate, and nobody really understands or sees you for who you truly are. We understand this challenge and we've discovered a few things over the years that have made an incredible difference for so many women.
In this post, we're going to discuss some of the most common challenges that powerful women face in dating and share a few profound insights that will likely change your perceptions and approach to dating.
Challenge #1: You Intimidate Men
One of the most common challenges we hear that powerful women face is feeling like they intimidate men.
A woman who knows who she is, what she wants, and the direction she's going is sure to scare off a lot of men. Many men are not that clear themselves and a woman who challenges a man to get clear when he's not ready to be clear is terrifying to that man.
Unfortunately, this might make you think that something is wrong with you. You might think "I'm too intimidating" or "That was too much pressure" or "I should be more easygoing."
Let us be very clear: There is nothing wrong with you. And being more easygoing or trying to be accommodating to what someone else wants you to be so that they don't feel uncomfortable is the last thing you should do.
Standing up for yourself is usually not the popular choice, especially when someone would rather you just be who they want you to be, but it's the only way you ever get what you want in the long run.
To have a relationship with a man who honors, appreciates, and respects you for who are, you have to be unwaveringly authentic to who you are. Don't allow someone that thinks you're "too much" to prevent you from being true to yourself.
Being powerful means that you will intimidate people, both men and women. Most people are not willing to own their own power. Be ok with that. Own your power, who you truly are, and what you'll find is that those who are not interested in recognizing, accepting, or respecting that will naturally fall away and those that are interested will gravitate towards you.
The right person will not be intimidated, they will respect you. In fact, they'll want to get to know you on a deeper level. But you have to be willing to hold true to yourself.
Challenge #2: You End Up With Weak Men
After you've been through a few relationships with men who weren't willing or able to step up to the plate, the pendulum will often swing to the other end of the spectrum and you might end up with a "nice guy".
He's not a jerk like some of the others and at first, you might think that this is what you were always looking for or should have been looking for. He's good to you, does nice things, says nice things, he's compliant to ma