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Why Dating Doesn't Work


If you're anything like us then you are probably asking yourself, "Why doesn't dating work for me?"


For many of us, past relationships have led us to believe that we are somehow different from everyone else. You end up thinking you're too much for people, nobody understands you, or relationships just don't work for you.


Can you relate?


Quality people usually struggle with modern dating. It's counterintuitive--you would think that dating is easier for them, but really it's not.


The modern dating game--or dating drama as we like to call it--is governed by strange laws that, in most cases, don't support successful relationships. People who are searching for authentic Love, who are not willing to compromise their desires and values, are the ones who struggle with it the most and often end up feeling defeated and hopeless.


The people who are not willing to participate with the insane dramas that are going on in the dating world will feel very out of place when they try to take part in it. If you're like us then you've certainly encountered this frustration.


You've probably thought to yourself, "If this is what's out there then I'd rather be alone," yet when you are alone you long for someone to be there with you and you wish to share your life with someone that you relate to on the deepest levels.


There's good news and bad news.


The bad news is that you will never feel at home in the crazy dating world. It will always be foreign to you because honestly, you're above it.


But that's also the good news. You ARE better than that, and because of that, there are opportunities for you to have True Love in a way that most people never find.


In this post, we're going to explain why dating has always felt so hard for you. Once you understand this, you will never see it the same way again.


So let's talk about the strange laws that govern modern dating. We've broken it down into 4 main points:


Protect Your Image

Compete With Each Other

Always Maintain the Position of Power

Make It All About Sex



#1 Protect Your Image


Since we've never received a healthy education on this subject, for the most part, dating ends up being a re-playing of our high school dramas in a new way. People thrive on drama and there is no more exciting place to fill your life with drama than in the dating game.


Most of us don't usually begin a first date by thinking:


"How can I really get to know this person?"


"How can I help them to really get to know me?"


"How can we connect in a way that shows us the possibility of a future together?"


"Let me be really present to this person's character so I can accurately determine if they're someone I want to see again."


On a first date, you're usually thinking something like:


"I hope they're not weird."


"I hope they don't think I'm weird."


"I hope this doesn't suck."