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Your Imaginary Reality

There is no fixed reality. Reality is a conversation...

A core idea of The Living Relationship is that all of our human struggles are born from a fundamental misinterpretation of the nature of #Life and our relationship to it. This is where our conversation begins and this recognition is the foundation on which a magical Life can be built.

Our misunderstanding of the True nature of Life is the greatest obstacle to having a life that one would call extraordinary.

To a great degree, we have all trained ourselves and been trained to believe that life is a certain way, and we relate with it accordingly. We think that Life IS this way or that way, we think that people ARE this way or that way, and most of all, we think ourselves to be a certain way: fixed in time, without possibility. Our lives then unfold congruent to that world-view, something we picked up from our childhood and our past experience, and we think that to be Life. We are very wrong.

There is no fixed reality.

Reality is a conversation that we live in and collective reality is a social conversation that we participate in together. Think of how often we hear people say, "that's just the way it is" or "that's just the way I am." A lifetime of living and thinking along these lines, and listening to others live and think this way will lead one to believe that there is, in fact, an objective reality. We Live our Lives believing in this objective reality and thinking that we are subject to the reality that others have invented and the laws that they have made and this prevents us from designing a reality congruent to the kind of Life that we want to participate in.

Take, for example, the 4 minute mile. Until 1954 nobody had ever run a four minute mile. It was actually believed at the time to be impossible. Until that day, there was no record in human history that anyone had ever run a mile faster than that. The closest anyone had come was 4:01. Scientists at the time said it was the most that a human body could achieve, that we couldn't accomplish any more. Not only was it dangerous, but impossible.

On May 6th, 1954 Roger Bannister broke the 4 minute barrier coming in at 3:59.4. Just 6 weeks later, John Landy shattered that record coming in at 3:57.9. Since then, running a four minute mile has become a standard achievement among professional runners and the record currently stands at 3:43.13 by Hicham El Guerrouj from Morocco.

The four minute mile was not a fact of our reality, despite the fact that people believed it was. It was a conversation--A conversation that one man, certain of his power and determined in his commitment was able to prove wrong and shift, not only for himself, but for the entire world.

What this means for us is that we live under laws of "reality" that we have not consciously designed, that we have unconsciously picked up. We believe Life to operate in ways that are at best limiting and at worst defeating.

The point is to recognize that Life is not how you think it is. I'd assert that nobody fully understands the true nature of Life. What I do know is that it is far more grand and immensely more #magical than most people give it credit for, and that there are very powerful laws that one can live by that will greatly enhance the level of experience and #possibility for them.

In The Living Relationship we have distinguished these laws. Our work is designed to teach the understanding, practice, and application of these laws to the degree that a person can alter their entire world-view. Life then responds accordingly.

Shane Kohler is an international

consciousness trainer, coach, teacher

and The Creator of

The Living Relationship Curriculum.

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