Secret #4: Don't be basic, focus on character over appearances
“That's always seemed so ridiculous to me, that people want to be around someone because they're pretty. It's like picking your breakfast cereals based on color instead of taste.”
― John Green
Here's the graphic I mention in the video...
1. In the past, what things have I found most attractive about people I dated? Why did I desire that person over someone else who may have been an option?
2. Aside from superficial things like looks/smarts, what do I truly desire in a partner? How might I notice those things in someone?
3. What things do I Love about people in general that make me feel comfortable and connected to them? Do I look for those same things in dating?