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3 Early Signs You Shouldn't Date Him


When you're into someone it's a really amazing feeling.


The excitement, hope, and anticipation are intoxicating. It's so easy to get swept away, especially when that person knows how to do and say all of the right things. Wanting Love is such a normal and natural thing. It's good to want Love and it's the most worthwhile thing you can ever desire.


The only problem is when wanting Love is costing you the Love of yourself.


When you entertain relationships that are hurting you.


When you feel less about yourself because of someone who is in your life.


When you are allowing your self-respect to be compromised in the hope of pleasing them.


We've done this many times in our past, experienced all the pain of it, and we know how badly it hurts. That's why we're sharing a few ways you can catch it early on before you get too carried away in the relationship.


Knowing what to look for and listen for is half the battle. In this post, we're sharing 3 early signs that you shouldn't date him. By considering these 3 signs, you'll only entertain relationships that show at least some amount of promise and that's a great first step towards finding the Love that you desire.





#1 He's not looking for anything serious.


Let's start by saying that we see nothing wrong with people not looking for something serious. Most people go through a phase of "playing the field" with no commitment. That's normal. Sadly, people usually suffer a lot while doing that but there's nothing inherently wrong with it.


Still, it's important to note that people who aren't looking for something serious usually don't find it and that's where things start to go wrong.


The player's most famous line is, "I'm not looking for anything serious but who knows, anything could happen..." With this line, he gives you the perfect amount of possibility with no commitment to keep you waiting around wondering what might happen.


It's not that he's malicious or evil or out to hurt you. The truth is he wants to get to know you, spend time with you, sleep with you, and have access to your life, but he doesn't want to give you any level of commitment in return for that.


If you're clear that you don't want any commitment and you're ok with that, then you can explore it and see what happens. There's nothing to lose.


But if you do want commitment, you can't allow yourself to buy into his game.

What he's doing is telling you early on: "DON'T EXPECT ANYTHING FROM ME." Later when you want a real relationship, he'll say, "I told you I didn't want anything serious."


If you want a committed relationship, you deserve to have it. You deserve someone who wants you in the same way you want them. But to find that, you can only entertain people who also want that, otherwise, you'll find yourself in endless cycles, chasing people who want something else, and trying to make them change their mind.




# 2 He doesn't want to tell people about you.


Nobody keeps someone they Love a secret. It's really that simple.


Even early on, when you're into someone and excited about it, the natural thing to do is to want to tell people about it, your friends or family. People who feel the need to hide things usually have things to hide. When someone is authentically looking for Love they aren't going to want to keep it a secret when they find it.


There may be a period of time in the first month or so that you don't broadcast it on social media, that's completely normal. We're not suggesting that you should announce it to the world after your first date but there is a distinct difference between someone being discreet and someone being secretive.