Have you ever been breadcrumbed by someone?
It's when someone is giving you the minimum amount of attention and investment necessary to keep you from walking away. Just when you've had it and you're ready to move on, they do or say something and it's just enough to pull you right back in.
You hear nothing for weeks and right when you're about to let go altogether, they call. They want to see you, they fill you with hope, and leave you thinking, "maybe this could work..."
And then, they disappear again.
You feel like you're always waiting around for them to call or text or want to see you, but it never seems like they're waiting on you. They keep you so starved for Love and affection that you start to become grateful for any little bit of their attention--
You get angry because they've gone dark again but when they call, it makes you so happy that you forget why you were angry. And then the cycle starts again, each time giving you just enough hope to keep hanging on but so little effort that you'll never be happy.
You want to find Love. You want someone you can count on to be there when you need them, to have your back, to Love and support you. You want something real and authentic. And you want this person to be the one.
We understand that more than you know, but if you really are being breadcrumbed, they are not "The One."
In this post, we're going to help you discover if you really are being breadcrumbed and what you'll have to do to get free of this situation.
Are you actually being breadcrumbed?
How do you know when it's happening? The dating game is complex and things are not always so black and white. Maybe he is just busy. Maybe he really is doing his best. Maybe the problem is you and not him and you just need to stop being so attached, right?
In some cases, yes, but you really have to trust your intuition. When someone is honestly into you, they want you to know it. When someone wants to be with you, they don't want to lose you. So they make the effort to keep you around.
If he isn't making every effort to show you how much you matter to him, it's unlikely that you do.
Ask yourself these questions:
Is it obvious that I am important to this person?
Are they making a real effort to have a relationship with me?
Do they make me feel important?
Do they make me a priority?
Does this relationship feel right in my heart or am I constantly trying to justify it in my mind?
When you know something is right you don't feel the need to question it and convince yourself that it's good. You don't have to talk yourself into what you know.
If he sincerely wants a relationship with you, he will want you to know that. If he doesn't want to lose you, the last thing he would want is for you to question if you should stick around or not.
Are you being breadcrumbed? You have to come to this conclusion for yourself but the signs are always there. If you honestly want to see the truth, you will.
Do you believe that you deserve better?
You find the Love that you believe you deserve. We know that can be tough to hear, but truer words have never been spoken.