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Why Do I Consistently Attract the Wrong People?

You, like the rest of us, want Love.

You want to be respected, appreciated, and honored, and you want a partner who can do that consistently.

Sometimes you think that maybe you're asking too much, but let us assure you--

You're not. That's actually just the minimum.

You know what you want but you still seem to consistently attract what you don't want. You want better relationships but they seem to be getting worse or at least staying the same.

You're intelligent enough to recognize that the common denominator in all of your relationships is you, but you can't seem to figure out what you're doing wrong. You're taking all the advice and doing all the right things but you still seem to attract the same kinds of people.

And we know, this can feel very defeating after a while.

You're not alone in this. It's incredibly common and you're not doing anything wrong but there may be some things that you are unaware of. Especially if you don't really understand how attraction works.

In this post, we're going to help you discover what's happening that's causing you to consistently attract the wrong people into your life so you can get on to Finding Your Ideal Partner like you deserve to.

We're sharing some ideas that you may not have considered but they will make all the difference in the world! So read on and enjoy :)

First, consider this: Are you more sensitive to what you want or to what you don't want?

This may sound like an easy question but it's not as easy as you think.

Sometimes we think we're thinking about what we want but instead we're thinking about the absence of it.

We are hyper-aware of how we don't have it.

Instead of thinking about the relationship you would like to have, you think about how alone you feel, how there are no good people out there, and you relive your past hurts, the ways that you've been let down and betrayed.

Now, instead of feeling like the Love of your life is right around the corner and you could meet them at any moment, they feel farther away than ever.

And you feel more alone than ever.

Now consider how much time you spend in this state of mind and the feelings that are associated with it. How does it make you feel?

Deflated, exhausted, frustrated, bored, indifferent.

In that state of being, you could bump right into your perfect person and you wouldn't even recognize them. They could walk up and introduce themselves and you would think, "I don't have the time for this."

Thinking about how you don't have Love or how you've been hurt and wronged in the past is the very thing that keeps Love out of your life. Instead of being open, connected, and lighthearted, you become closed-off, disconnected, and suspicious. And it's impossible to find True Love in that state.

There is nothing more useless to your health and happiness than dwelling on what you don't have or how you've been deprived of something you should have. Right now, in this moment, you can make the decision to get clear about what you want and relentlessly move in that direction.

And if you make that choice, you will certainly find what you're looking for.

So how does this translate to real life?

Let's take a common example...

Say your ex broke up with you 6 months ago. By this time they've already moved on and seem to be happier than ever posting pictures of their new relationship on social media.

You, on the other hand, feel completely let down and betrayed.

You feel that you were done wrong and can't get over how incredibly unfair it is that they should be so happy while you're suffering. How could someone do you so wrong and come out on top?

Why do they deserve to find Love and not you?

This is literally consuming most of your thoughts. Every time you take out your phone you're afraid of what you'll see and yet you keep looking for it. It's like you can't help yourself!

You're constantly thinking about something that hurts you, looking for more of it, and feeling worse by the minute.

You're in a negative thought loop. Some people stay here for weeks, some months, and others years but only you can choose to get out of it.

Even when you do move on, if you haven't let go of this grudge, you're going to try to find someone like your ex and re-create the same situation. Psychologically, you'll try to "get it right this time" but more than likely you'll find yourself right back where you started.

And you see how this pattern can continue over many years.

If you have a pattern of unfulfilling relationships, you have to recognize that you are the common denominator. For some reason, you are consistently seeking out relationships that are unfulfilling and you are the only person who can do anything to change that.

If you have the courage to assess your own thought patterns, you'll find what's causing it and when you choose to let that go, you will begin attracting new people.

Now, what are you supposed to do with all this?

Recognize that every idea about what you don't want has an equivalent of what you do want. That is the only way that identifying what you don't want is useful--by using it to help clarify what you do want.

In the above example: Your ex leaves you hurt and betrayed, moves on with someone else, and posts pictures of their happy life all over social media with no regard for your pain.

What you don't want: To be left, abandoned, rejected, betrayed.

What you do want: To be safe, secure, accepted, and Loved.

What you don't want has now served its entire purpose. If you continue to dwell on it any further you are only hurting yourself and giving your ex all of your power.

You may ask how can I just let that go? But we ask: what benefit is there to not doing so? Not only does he have a new relationship in which he's apparently very happy but he also has control of your mind. How is that fair?

If you can use this experience to identify what you do want and start focusing all of your attention on that, you will get a hold of your power to start moving forward in an empowered way.

And there is no situation that this is not applicable to:

The person who slept with you and never called again...

The 3-week relationship where you got ghosted...

The person at work who criticizes you...

Parents and family who ask why you're still single...

You don't attract the wrong people because there's something wrong with you. You attract them because you're hyper-sensitive to them, looking for them everywhere you go, thinking about them when they're not around, and wondering when they're going to call you.

So even when you don't attract the person you're thinking about, you attract someone just like them who will treat you the same way they did.

Instead, say to yourself every day: I want a passionate relationship where I am Loved, respected, and valued. I know I deserve this, I know there are so many people in the world who want the same things, and of course I will meet one of them!

Say to yourself: The relationships that have hurt me in my past have been teaching me everything I needed to learn to be ready for the Love of my life and I know he's on his way. It's so close, I feel it.

Say to yourself: I Love myself and my life so much and I have so much to be grateful for that I'm not rushing Love. It will get here when it gets here and I'll be ready for it but I'm having a blast in the meantime.

And don't just say it, believe it.

We know the pain so well and our hearts go out to you if you're suffering, but know that you're the only one who can end that suffering.

Your thoughts about Love and relationships are determining the experiences you attract and nobody can change your mind for you. Love yourself enough to be happy in your life and to think thoughts that increase that happiness.

Your life will begin to reflect that in every way.

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And thank you for reading. Lots of Love <3

Thank you so much for enjoying our content! Our greatest joy comes from knowing that people like you are using it to transform your lives and relationships and that the world is becoming a better place because of it.

We know the feeling of being alone, of struggling through what seems like an endless series of dead-end relationships, of waiting for the phone to ring, of being rejected and let down again and again.

We know what it's like to go to bed alone each night wondering if that will ever change and fearing that it might not.

We know these experiences all too well and that is why we do the work we do. We want you to know that you can find Love, that the application of these simple tools and practices can make a complete difference in every aspect of your Love life, ultimately leading you to the intimate, loving, lifetime partnership you so deeply crave.

You're not in this alone. We're here for you <3


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